because of that last post, I just want to note to dudes who say, “Well men don’t notice/care about [insert body feature women might be insecure about here,” as a way of trying to help women with their insecurities, you should note before you speak that:
-not all women are attracted to men
-even women who are attracted to men don’t necessarily care about what you think about their body
-emphasizing your feelings about women’s bodies and what is beautiful (even to say that you think certain things society deems undesirable on women are desirable) perpetuates the idea that women’s beauty and confidence is about and should resolve around male desire and regardless of your intention that’s hella problematic
so next time you’re gonna say, “men don’t care if you have a thigh gap” or “I as a man like women with body hair” or something along those lines, stop. don’t speak. just sit down and listen to women.
"Fat people, queer people, trans* people, femmes, disabled people, POC need and deserve affirmation too! For many of us taking selfies is an exercise in putting our self-love into praxis. The act of loving, seeing, and accepting oneself in real time. Also, so what if people take pride in the likes and comments that their selfies garner?! There is nothing wrong or gross about freely accepting compliments. Folks need to stop pathologizing those who relish in the compliments that they receive. It takes lots of work and practice to be able to freely accept a compliment, especially when you struggle to see yourself as worthy and never was accustomed to receiving them!
Black feminists coined the phrase “the personal is political” (no matter what Wikipedia tells you a white women DID NOT coin that phrase) and indeed taking selfies is a personal act deeply rooted in the radical politics of self-love. If someone can’t see that that, it simply means that their mainstream pretty, thin, & skin privilege is getting in the way of that."
Do not touch your body with bad intentions. Rub your belly when it is full. Stroke your soft skin. Hug yourself, even if it’s silly, because it feels nice. Pleasure yourself. Do not touch your body with bad intentions. Do not pinch at the fat on your stomach. Do not scratch at your skin. Do not hate the shell you’re encased in.
Your pants say yoga but your butt says mcdonalds
Your blog says “fitness” but your words just body shame.
i really need to eat cause i just worked out but the very idea of making and eating food right now is so off putting i dont think i can do it
Loving your body isn’t conceited
Feeling proud of yourself doesn’t make you a narcissist
Giving yourself credit for something won’t make you lose motivation to keep bettering yourself
Caring about your own happiness isn’t shallow
Putting your recovery first isn’t selfish
I think imma do stadiums after class just incase my gym partner decides he doesn’t want to go to the gym today and cause I packed my gym clothes in my backpack and I don’t want to have carried them around for no reason. And if he does decide to go I’ll have out two workouts in which makes up for the lack of workouts over break.